Is it a sin to have gay feelings?
Question: I want to thank you for your work! I am homosexual and
I struggle with these feelings since a long time ago. I choose to stay
celibate. But I cannot remove these feelings. I really think I will
never be attracted to women. I am too attracted to men. Do you think it's
a sin to have these feelings?
It is not a sin to have feelings of same-sex attraction. The sin
is acting upon it. For example: nearly every married couple still feels
attraction toward others that are not their spouse. It is not a sin for
married spouses to have "attraction" toward someone not their spouse.
Attraction does not make them adulterers. So having attraction toward
those of the same sex does not make you a homosexual. So do not say that
you are a homosexual; you are not, unless you live that way.
Let me give you a scripture to back
this up: "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the
kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor
idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders"
(1 Cor 6:9). The condemnation is for homosexual "offenders."
If a person had thoughts of stealing,
would they be arrested for their thoughts? Of course not, because they
would not be an offender. Only offenders of the law get punished.
Temptation comes to all of us; however, that does not make us sinners
for having temptation. Even Jesus was tempted, "For we do not have a
high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have
one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are — yet was without
sin" (Heb 4:15). So do not let the devil condemn you by making you
think you have sinned by having attraction toward those of the same
Finally, God can heal you from same-sex
attraction. While it is normal for have heterosexual attraction; it is
not normal to have same-sex attraction. I don't think you have to
tolerate these overwhelming feelings. However, you said, "I will never
be attracted to women." As long as you believe that lie, you
will stay attracted only to men. You have to come to a point in your
faith that you believe anything is possible with God. So I recommend you
receiving inner healing from homosexual attraction. Find out what
happened in your life that may have injured your psyche so badly that
you struggle with these feelings.
Read my articles,
Can Homosexuals Change? and
Homosexuality: Its Cause and Cure. I also have a CD and DVD series
on the subject and my book, Breaking Curses, Experiencing Healing, has
two chapters on the subject of God's Cure for Homosexuality. I will pray
Follow Up Question:
Hello Pastor, in your write-up on homosexuality, you say
that if a husband thinks about sex with another women it's not adultery.
May I remind you of Matthew 5:28 New Living Translation, "But I say,
anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed
adultery with her in his heart..." I'm sorry, but according to JESUS
CHRIST your teaching is wrong.
Follow Up Bible Answer:
Sheryl, I am not talking about "lust" but about "attraction." Those are
two very different things. Lust is when you fantasize about having sex
with a person not your spouse. That is adultery or fornication in the
heart. Attraction is simply recognizing that someone is handsome or
pretty in ones' eyes; in other words, nice looking.
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