Todays Question: What
does the Bible say about same sex marriages?
Bible Answer: This is a topic of
great debate, especially now since President Obama clearly stated his views for
same-sex marriage and the US Supreme Court struck down DOMA, forcing the Federal
Government to recognize same-sex marriage in states that have legalized it. And recently the owner of Chick-fil-A was under fire for
stating his religious views that same-sex marriage is unbiblical, and so the
mayor of Chicago, Rahm Emanuel, has tried to use his mayoral powers to keep
Chick-fil-A from opening a second restaurant in Chicago. Make no mistake about
it: the gay right's activists will discriminate against anyone who will not
sanction homosexuality or same-sex marriage. This issue appears to be the
defining subject to determine who will stand up for the Bible or come against
People will ask me, "Bishop where directly in the Bible does it speak against
same sex marriage?" Im
not aware of any ancient society allowing same sex marriages, so
you wont find any direct reference to this in your Bible.
The issue just did not come up. It hasnt even come up in
our country until recently. The best we can derive from the Bible
about same sex marriages is by seeing how the Bible speaks about
Most people know about the Old Testament prohibition against
"Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable" (Lev 18:22).
This scripture is rather clear. No deep interpretation needed
here. In fact, this statement describes homosexuality as "detestable"sometimes translated as abomination. It means
"disgusting." This word is carefully used in
conjunction with serious sins. Make no mistake about it:
homosexuality is a serious sin under the Old Testament.
Gay people should not think God is singling out their sins,
however. This sin is simply part of a list of twenty other sexual
unions forbidden. Other sins include adultery, incest and
bestiality. People will argue that eating shell fish according to the Old
Testament is also an abomination, so they are quick to discount this prohibition
by appealing to Israel's dietary laws, and saying that Christians are
inconsistent in using Leviticus concerning homosexuality but not using it
concerning eating shrimp. What they don't tell you is that the Lord Jesus "declared
all foods clean" (Mark 7:19). Yet He never changed the Law of Marriage--it
still is a lifetime commitment between one man and one woman. Also, of the list
of forbidden sexual practices mentioned in Leviticus chapter 18, which one would
be acceptable? Incest, adultery, bestiality? I have yet to find anyone willing
to sanction any of the sexual prohibitions, except homosexuality. Why is
homosexuality okay, but not the others? The truth is, all the sexual
prohibitions in Leviticus are wrong and sinful.
Concerning the New Testament, Jesus does not directly address
same sex marriages; although, He does talk about marriage. He
"'Haven't you read,' he replied,
'that at the beginning the Creator made them
male and female, and said, 'For this reason a man
will leave his father and mother and be united to his
wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they
are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined
together, let man not separate." (Matt 19:4-6)
Jesus taught that marriage is between "male and female".
There is no point in trying to get Jesus to sanction same sex
marriages. He doesnt. According to Jesus, there is no such thing as
marriage between the same-sex. It doesn't exist in God's sight. According to
Genesis chapter one and three, marriage is a lifetime commitment made between
one man and one woman for the purpose of "being fruitful and multiplying"
(Gen 1:27). Same sex partners can never multiply together. They are by nature
unable to fulfill the command given to the entire married race.
There is a direct reference to homosexuality in the New
Testament. It comes from the pen of Paul.
"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit
the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the
sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male
prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the
greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will
inherit the kingdom of God" (1 Cor 6:9-10).
Homosexual offenders are placed in the same category as
adulterers, prostitutes and thieves. They are all wrong. I
couldnt imagine the apostle approving of homosexual
marriages, can you?
Not only does the Bible, by default, forbid same sex marriages, but tradition and nature
prohibits it also. The concept is against every tradition known to the human
race and is obviously against nature. Allowing same sex marriages will devalue
real marriages, open a Pandora box of other issues such as polygamy, incest
marriages, child marriages, and even foolish marriages between men and animals.
Same sex partners will demand equal rights to adopt children, so we would be
forced to put children in harms way to learn this lifestyle. As Pope Francis
properly said that children adopted by gay partners would amount to
"discrimination against children."
Where will the line be drawn? Let's allow reason, common sense, and our inner
sense of right and wrong help us to make the right choices, not withstanding the
clear biblical teaching on this subject.
America is at a crossroad concerning same sex marriages. Runaway mayors,
disguising themselves as equal rights activists, have forced this issue by
illegally performing marriages for homosexuals. Although the "Defense of
Marriage" act gives the states the right to reject same sex marriages performed
in other states, this issue must be settled once and for all with a
In the past, slavery was a state issue, but eventually, it was clear that the
Federal government had to put an end to it. Civil war broke out because
other states wanted to maintain their right to have slavery. The issue of
marriage cannot be left to each state to decide. This issue is so fundamental to
society that congress and three fourths of the states should settle the issue
for our country.
In the end, the state has only one reason why they should be involved in
marriage laws at all, and that is to seek to promote in its marriage law the
best setting to nurture children. The state should recognize that the best
setting is between a mother and father. Children have a better chance to turn
out better if they are raised by their parents. So if a couple divorces the
state tries to make sure that both parents stay involve in the children's lives
through visitation rights and through child support. On the other hand, gay
couples will never have biological children together. If there is biological
children then the children will rightfully belong to the one biological parent,
thus the state should stay out of that relationship.
If two men "feel a connection" they can do what they want with that feeling.
If they want to move in and buy a house together, fine. If they want to make a
commitment to each other, then they are free to do that, but they don't need the
government to get involve in their relationship, because that is not in the
state's interest. Love and emotional connection is outside the scope of the
state's interest. The state should care about the biological children created in
the union, and children can only be born with two heterosexual couples.
Finally, someone might ask, "What happens to the Church if same-sex marriage
becomes legal in the US?" The answer is simple and is the same answer in states
and countries that already legalized same-sex marriage: the Church must continue
to stand for the truth and affirm the sanctity of marriage. The Church sees
marriage as a sacrament, thus we hold that only God can actually join two people
in holy matrimony. God does not, and will not, join two homosexuals together in
marriage and so the Church cannot perform those marriages. The question remains
whether or not the government will fine or punish churches for not agreeing to
perform marriages against their religious views. (For example: Will cities tax
the properity of churches for not performing same sex marriages?)
Remember also that the Church cannot always perform heterosexual marriages as
well, when she knows the two could not be joined together by the Lord. There was
a man in my church that divorced his wife so he could marry the woman he wanted,
but I could not perform the marriage, because the marriage would be adultery in
God's sight. Now, he got married by the court, but he is not married in God's
sight. You see, the Church is always confronted with the tension between the
laws of man and the laws of God. As the Church, we must stand lovingly, yet
firmly, on the side of God's laws.
My great concern is that our society is falling downward in morality, and so
it does not surprise me to see society begging the government to endorse their
immorality. However, I am also concern for our free speech rights being called
"hateful" or maybe even declared "illegal" in the near future. The ultimate goal
of the homosexual activists is to make their immoral conduct acceptable in
society, but that will never happen so long as ministers have free speech and
continue to speak the truth in love. So to arrive at their ultimate goal, the
homosexual activists will have to find a way to shut the mouths of ministers,
and so our freedom of religion and free speech rights may very well be in
On a related topic, you might check out my
other question about
Can Homosexuals Change?
or watch the YouTube video on Same-Sex Marriage.